Tuesday, September 20, 2011

Day 7: [15 Day Challenge]

Day 7: Describe your relationship with your parents/siblings.

I have been kind of avoiding this one, not wanting to be a Debbie Downer {and if your name is Debbie I do not mean to say that you are a downer, that's just a phrase}.

I'll just give you the basics, both good and bad.

My Mom.
She died on mother's day in 1991, when I was 9. She was 30.  Motorcycle accident. She and the group of them were not making smart choices.  My relationship with her now is with my memory and my trying to relate to being a mom myself.  I look a lot like her. I have her laugh. I wish I had her green eyes.

My Dad.
He died in June 2009, just barely after I got married. I thank God that he got to go to my wedding.  He had a thoracic aneurysm.  I was 27.  He was 68.  He worked his ass off til the day he died, literally.  It was Sunday and he was coming home from the store to work on a project.  I loved my father more than anyone else.  I don't know if I would have ever "fully relied" on my husband, as I should, if my father hadn't died when he did. He was the one person like me in all of the universe.  I hate that he will never get to meet my son while we are all on this earth.  I miss him everyday.

Without my daddy, in my opinion, the relationship with my sibling has fallen by the wayside.  I'm sure between them, there is a long lasting bond., but all came into the family in different generations and/or different extensions of my father.

I have a total of 9 brothers and sisters. I am the only child of my mother and father. I am the youngest child of my father's children. I am my mother's only biological child.  The disconnect I speak of exists between my father's children and I .  The only sibling I have ever shared a home with is the only one I have a connection and protection for.

Now, go read someone else's post and have some happy thoughts!  Thanks for stopping by. 


  1. *hugs* That's a really hard blow to one person. I'm sorry you've lost two of the most important people in your life.

  2. <3 Reading this, I just wanted to be closer to you so that we could go grab some coffee and chat. I'm sorry that you lost both your parents so young, but I feel as if those experiences has made you a stronger person. You're such an inspiration to anyone who has dealt with tumultuous times, and I'm glad you felt comfortable sharing your story with us.